Bad questions lead to bad answers. Good questions lead to good answers. It’s a maxim that I try to keep neatly tucked in the back of my mind any time I’m struggling with a situation.
“How am I supposed to move forward in a world like this?”
That is a bad question, albeit valid, that will inevitably lead to a bad answer.
“How do I move forward in a positive way, regardless of my circumstances?”
That is a good question that will inevitably lead to a good answer.
The difference is not in the content. The difference is in the framing. When we insinuate a bad answer, we will easily come up with one. When we insinuate a positive answer, our minds will do what they can to produce one.
Today is a struggle for many. Today is elation for many. But regardless of which side of the equation you fall on, today is an opportunity to control our own happiness by asking good questions. We cannot control other people or situations. What we can control is how we respond to them.
Anger is not handed to us from someone else. It’s lit within ourselves by our own hand.
Suffering is not some external force on our lives. It bubbles up internally from things we allow to affect us.
When living at the extremes of emotion, as we are today, the outcome of those extremes comes from the questions we ask. May myself and others ask good questions that inevitably lead to good answers. It’s important always. But it’s critical now.